Thursday, May 28, 2009

It's Been 6 Months

I would love to say it doesn't feel like it. Like it feels like just yesterday. But it doesn't. It almost feels like it happened in an alternate reality. It feels so surreal that I (Me, Alisha) was pregnant with a perfect little boy that just died in my womb. Died. I have a child that was born dead. It feels so far away. So far away. He was born (dead of course) on November, 28th. His heart stopped beating sometime on November 27th. So I have had this morbid thought in my head about how his tombstone would read? "Born 11/28/08, Died 11/27/08"? Or 11/28/08 -11/27/08? Weird isn't it?
Back to my original thought though. He just feels so far away. Further than 6 months. Further than....I don't know what. He is only going to get further and further.
In the weeks following his death, I would cry myself to sleep @ night. Sometimes clutching the teddy bear or blanket they gave him in the hospital. Always smelling him before going to bed. Taking in the aroma of the little gowns and hats that he wore.
I still haven't (and @ this point probably won't) washed them. It has been awhile since I have opened the Ziploc baggy and breathed them in. A smell that is so sweet and so sad @ the same time. I don't know what I will do when the smell fades away. It will just be another part of him further away from me.
Today I reread a post on a forum I am a member of. It was posted by my husband to inform my dear friends that our little boy had passed. My eyes swelled with tears and the tears spilled over. I know on some level I think of him everyday. Whether it be specifically him, or maybe the memory of how terrifying the pregnancy was and how more terrifying it makes THIS pregnancy. It was nice to take a moment today and really think of him and what occurred on this day 6 months ago.
So please, if you will. Take a moment and think of my sweet Clarence today. And I will smile in appreciation of how many people this little life touched.
Thank you for all your love and support.

5 comments:

Shana said...

Oh, sweet Alisha. We think of little Clarence daily and the pain you had to suffer. I kind of understand since I dealt with a mc but it is very different to have to go through birth and holding one and all. So much more personal I think. I am hugging you from here today and praying for you always.

Michele said...

Thinking of Clarence- and of you- today...

Tracey said...

I'm new to your blog - and while I'm a day late, I just wanted to say - I will be thinking of Clarence today on his six month angelversary and sending you much love for your new little Tweet.

Bluebird said...

Thinking of you and your sweet little boy.

I understand the feelings you describe. Time is so different now.

((Hugs)) sweet girl.

Barbara said...

Thinking of you and Clarence and thanking Clarence for leading me to you.

xxx